Are You a Narcissistic Workaholic??? Narcissistic Men and the Women Who Love Them???
Are You a Workaholic?
You might as well face it -- you’re addicted to work. Could your workaholism be hurting you?
THE PREAMBLE* Of Workaholics Anonymous Workaholics Anonymous
is a fellowship of individuals who share their experience, strength, and hope
with each other that they may solve their common problems and
help others to recover from workaholism.
The only requirement for membership is the desire to stop working compulsively.
There are no dues or fees for W.A. membership;
we are self-supporting through our own contributions.
W.A. is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics,
organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy;4
neither endorses nor opposes any causes.
Our primary purpose is to stop working compulsively and to carry the message
of recovery to workaholics who still suffer.
HOW DO I KNOW IF I’M A WORKAHOLIC?
1. Do you get more excited about your work than about family or anything else?
2. Are there times when you can charge through your work and other times
when you can’t get anything done?
3. Do you take work with you to bed? On weekends? On vacation?
4. Is work the activity you like to do best and talk about most?
5. Do you work more than 40 hours a week?
6. Do you turn your hobbies into moneymaking ventures?
7. Do you take complete responsibility for the outcome of your work efforts?
8. Have your family or friends given up expecting you on time?
9. Do you take on extra work because you are concerned that it won't otherwise get done?
10. Do you underestimate how long a project will take and then rush to complete it?
11. Do you believe that it is okay to work long hours if you love what you are doing?
12. Do you get impatient with people who have other priorities besides work?
13. Are you afraid that if you don't work hard you will lose your job or be a failure?
14. Is the future a constant worry for you even when things are going very well?
15. Do you do things energetically and competitively including play?
16. Do you get irritated when people ask you to stop doing your work
in order to do something else?
17. Have your long hours hurt your family or other relationships?
18. Do you think about your work while driving, falling asleep, or when others are talking?
19. Do you work or read during meals?
20. Do you believe that more money will solve the other problems in your life?
If you answer “yes” to three or more of these questions, there is a chance you
are a workaholic or well on your way to becoming one.
TOOLS OF RECOVERY
Listening We set aside time each day for prayer and meditation.
Before accepting any commitments,
we ask our Higher Power and W.A. friends for guidance.
Prioritizing We decide which are the most important things to do first.
4Sometimes that may mean doing nothing.
We strive to stay flexible to events, reorganizing our priorities as needed.
We view interruptions and accidents as opportunities for growth.
Substituting We do not add a new activity without eliminating from
our schedule one that demands equivalent time and energy.
Underscheduling We allow more time than we think we need for a task or trip,
allowing a comfortable margin to accommodate the unexpected.
Playing We schedule time for play, refusing to let ourselves work non-stop.
We do not make our play into a work project. Concentrating We try to do one thing at a time.
Pacing We work at a comfortable pace and rest before we get tired.
To remind ourselves, we check our level of energy before proceeding to our next activity.
We do not get "wound up" in our work, so we don’t have to unwind.
Relaxing We do not yield to pressure from others or attempt to pressure others.
We remain alert to the people and situations that trigger feelings of pressure in us.
We become aware of our own actions, words,
body sensations and feelings that tell us we are responding with pressure.
When we feel energy building up, we stop; we reconnect with our Higher Power and others around us.
Accepting We accept the outcomes of our endeavors, whatever the results, whatever the timing.
We know that impatience, rushing and insisting on perfect results only slow down our recovery.
We are gentle with our efforts, knowing that our new way of living requires much practice. Asking
We admit our weaknesses and mistakes. We realize we don’t have to do everything ourselves,
and we ask our Higher Power and others for help. Meetings We attend W.A. meetings to learn how the
fellowship works and to share our experience, strength and hope with each other.
Telephoning We use the telephone to stay in contact with members of the fellowship between meetings.
We communicate with our W.A. friends before and after a critical task.
Balancing We balance our involvement in work with our efforts to
develop personal relationships, spiritual growth, creativity and playful attitudes.
Serving We readily extend help to other workaholics,
knowing that assistance to others adds to the quality of our own recovery.
Living in the Now We realize we are where our Higher Power wants us to
be—in the here and now. We try to live each moment with serenity, joy and gratitude.
Workaholics feel the urge of being busy all the time, to the point that
they often perform tasks that are not required or
necessary for project completion. As a result, they tend to be inefficient workers,
since they focus on being busy, instead of focusing on being productive.
In addition, workaholics tend to be less effective than other workers because
they have difficulty working as part of a team, trouble delegating or entrusting co-workers,
or organizational problems due to taking on too much work at once.
[6] Furthermore, workaholics often suffer sleep deprivation,
which results in impaired brain and cognitive function.[7]
The term workaholic refers to various types of behavioral patterns, with each having its own valuation.
For instance, workaholism is sometimes used by people
wishing to express their devotion to one's career in positive terms.
The "work" in question is usually associated with a paying job,
but it may also refer to independent pursuits such as
sports, music, art and science. However, the term is more often used to refer
to a negative behavioral pattern that is popularly characterized by spending an
excessive amount of time on working, an inner compulsion to work hard,
and a neglect of family and other social relations.
Researchers have found that in many cases, incessant work-related activity
continues even after impacting the subject's relationships and physical health.
Causes of it are thought to be anxiety, low self-esteem and intimacy problems.
Further, workaholics tend to have an inability to delegate work tasks to others
and tend to obtain high scores on personality traits
such as neuroticism, perfectionism
Clinical psychologist Professor Bryan Robinson identifies two axes for workaholics:
work initiation and work completion.
He associates the behavior of procrastination with both "Savoring Workaholics"
(those with low work initiation/low work completion)
and "Attention-Deficit Workaholics" (those with high work initiation and low work completion),
in contrast to "Bulimic" and "Relentless" workaholics - both of whom have high work completion.[3]
Workaholism in Japan is considered a serious social problem leading to early death, often on the job,
a phenomenon dubbed karōshi. Overwork was popularly blamed for the
fatal stroke of Prime Minister of Japan Keizō Obuchi, in the year 2000.
[4] Death from overwork is not a uniquely Japanese phenomenon; in 2013,
a Bank of America intern in London died after working for 72 hours straight.[5
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=YOUR WIFE =YOUR ONLY LIFE!!
= It's a bit lumpy but it rings!
Well,it looks as if there's
nothing more for me to say, but--
[Sung]Goodbye, Goodbye, Goodbye!!!!
Goodbye, Goodbye, Goodbye!!!!
Don't try to stop me please!!!!!!...
Wave your little hand and whisperSo long dearie!!!!
You ain't gonna see me anymore
But when you discover
that your life is dreary!!!
YOU MAKE ME FEEL
UNHEARD & AND ALL ALONE!!!
S00000000000000 SAD!! (;>(
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- Don't you come a knockin' at my door
Buddy Holly - Don't Come back Knockin
- For I'll be all dolled up
And singin' that song
That says you dog!!!!! - I told you so
So wave your little hand and whisper
So long dearie
Dearie, should have said so long
So long ago
Because you'vetreated me so >rotten and rough - I've had enoughof feelin' low
So wave your little hand and whisper
So long dearie!!!!
Dearie would have said so long!!!!
So long ago!!!!!
For I can hear that choo choo callin' me on
To a fancy new address
Yes, I can hear that choo choo callin' me on
On board that happiness express
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I'm go'n as far away from NY - as a girl can get!!!!!
[Spoken]
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Cold and lonely night, The Gaylads
The Gaylads - You Had Your Chance
The Gaylads - Go away
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Narcissistic Men and the Women Who Love Them
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- register=YOUR WIFE =YOUR ONLY LIFE!!!=
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- "BYE-BYE-
- TO ME!!!..I WILL NEVER COME 1ST IN YOURLIFE OR WORLD=TREATED ME LIKE A2ND HAND ROSE!!
- [Sung]
Don't come a knockin'
I'll be all dolled up
And singin' that song
That says you dog, I told you so
So you will find your life a sad old story
When you see your Dolly shuffle off to glory
Oh I should have said so long...
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